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Self-paced course · Companion course to Guarding Against H.U.L.K. Mode

The Tape Room

A six-module course on the man you become in arguments

Not anger. Absence.

6modules~5 hrsat your own pace60flash cards60quiz questions
Start the course — $149 Preview Module 1 free About the book

Dr. Donetta D. Quinones, PhD, LMHC, LPC · GraceRoot Relationship Healing Institute

Who this is for

If what bothers you about the last bad argument is not that you were angry but that you weren't there — that somebody with your face and your car keys ran that conversation and left you to answer for it — this course is for you. It is written for the man who has already decided he wants this to stop.

What you will be able to do

  • Describe what actually happens to you in an argument using the four-sign checklist, so you can name which sign you notice first.
  • Tell emotional regulation from sedation, so you can know the difference between getting better and getting quieter.
  • Walk the seven-beat sequence and find its runway, so you can act at the two points where acting still works.
  • Recognize all four shapes it takes — including the two that are completely silent, so you can stop scoring yourself only on the loud one.
  • Use the ninety minutes after, so you can spend the most valuable part of the cycle repairing instead of compounding.

The modules

01Meeting the Other Guy
There is a version of you that shows up a few times a year, and the two of you have never been formally introduced.		~50 min
02The Handoff
Why you are magnificent in a crisis and useless in a kitchen — and what actually happens to your equipment in the ninety seconds before.		~50 min
03Seven Beats
A transformation is not an event. It is a sequence with a runway, and there are exactly two places in it where intervention works.		~55 min
04Four Shapes
There is more than one other guy. Two of the four are completely silent, and they cost exactly the same.		~50 min
05The Break, and the Line
The one tool that pays as fast as your protector does — built correctly, because in every other form it does damage.		~55 min
06The Comedown
Beat 7 is the most valuable ninety minutes in the whole cycle, and almost everybody spends it making things worse.		~50 min

Format & what you get

  • Six modules with objectives, a worked example, a structured attempt, and one practice you can do on your own.
  • Sixty flash cards and sixty quiz questions, ten of each per module.
  • Every claim carries the same evidence grade it carries in the book — solid, reasonable, or clinical-with-no-data — stated on the page rather than implied.
  • Everything you type stays in your own browser, on your own device. It is never sent to the author or to any server.

Why trust it

Dr. Donetta D. Quinones, PhD, LMHC, LPC is a licensed mental health counselor and licensed professional counselor, a certified Human Behavior Consultant, and the founder of GraceRoot Relationship Healing Institute. The teaching is trauma-informed and plain-spoken, and nothing here is a diagnostic instrument. The course is built from her book Guarding Against H.U.L.K. Mode.

Price

$149

One payment. Self-paced, revisit any time, and questions go to support@graceroot.institute.

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Questions people actually ask

Is this an anger management course?

Not in the court-ordered sense — GraceRoot has a separate court-aligned anger management course for that. This one is about the mechanism: what happens in the ninety seconds before, and what to do with the ninety minutes after.

Do I need the book?

No. The course is a companion to Guarding Against H.U.L.K. Mode and stands on its own.

What if I am afraid of what I might do?

Then a course is not the right instrument for tonight. The course itself carries this on its first screen: in the United States, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788; in the UK, Respect Phoneline is 0808 802 4040.

Does it score me or produce a profile?

No. The quizzes check whether the material landed, not what kind of person you are.

Where does my writing go?

Into your own browser, on your own device, and nowhere else.

Not anger. Absence.

The man in the tape room is not a monster. He is a protector with bad information and no brake. Both of those are workable.

Start the course — $149 Preview Module 1 free About the book

Program Clarity

GraceRoot courses are psychoeducational learning programs, not emergency care, legal advice, or a replacement for therapy. Certificates document GraceRoot completion. Court, employer, board, or continuing education acceptance should be confirmed before purchase unless a page states a specific approval.

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