Overcoming Narcissistic Spiritual Abuse From the Pulpit
Throughout Scripture, God used unexpected vessels — even a donkey — to warn leaders blinded by pride, greed, and ambition. Yet today, too many congregations suffer under leaders who silence every voice but their own. Dr. Quinones names the pattern with unflinching clarity: the Narcissistic A.S.S. leader.
Rules by intimidation and outburst. Criticism is met with rage or retaliation, and disagreement is rebranded as rebellion against God’s anointed.
Exploits authority, people, and resources to serve personal ambition — masking self-promotion behind spiritual rhetoric and a carefully curated image.
Manipulates without empathy or remorse — weaving a narcissistic web of control, gaslighting, and division that entangles entire congregations.
If even a humble donkey could perceive and obey God’s will, why do some leaders — entrusted with spiritual authority — refuse to? This book is the mirror, the warning, and the way out.
Part exposé, part biblical study, part recovery guide — grounded in Numbers 22, Jude 1, and the hard-won wisdom of ministry experience.
Identify grandiose, vulnerable, and malignant narcissism in ministry — and the telltale traits: exploitation of authority, aversion to accountability, and dismissal of correction.
See how manipulation, the Karpman Drama Triangle, and cycles of abuse trap congregations — and why good people stay entangled far too long.
Balaam, Samson, King Saul, Cain, Korah, Peter, and Paul — vivid portraits of spiritual blindness, its consequences, and the redemption possible through humility.
Practical steps for victims and congregations: setting boundaries, restoring discernment, and refusing to let a leader’s pride drown out God’s voice.
Establish transparent structures that align leadership with biblical principles — so authority serves God’s mission, not personal empires (Proverbs 11:14).
Move from wounded to whole through Christ-centered transformation — breaking the shell of carnality and letting love-driven obedience renew leader and church alike.
Ten chapters that move from recognition to transformation — each with its own built-in study guide.
Ideal as a personal recovery companion, a leadership-team text, or a 10-week small-group study.
“When the ass speaks, it is not the vessel but the message that matters… God’s wisdom often comes through the unexpected.”
— From the Introduction
The voices God sends are rarely the ones we expect. Don’t dismiss the one that could set you — or your church — free.
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